Emotional Assumptions

Have you ever had someone get mad at you for the wrong reason? I am sure you have. It is a constant occurrence in life. One will mistake something for another because of an assumption. The reasoning behind this is usually because someone said something and when the other person either gets mad or shows an emotion other than the one they are looking for; they will normally think that you are reacting to what they just said. Sometimes it actually is but a lot of times where it is the context as to how it was said. When someone says something to someone, they don’t realize that how they word something can come off as completely asinine or completely a way they did not mean. I won’t lie, I am the same way. The thing is, until you approach the person, they will keep saying things in that same tone or way that pissed you off or made you upset/depressed and it becomes a vicious circle.

Now if you are someone, like me, who needs a bit to cool off, no matter how mad, pissed off or barely upset you are, make sure you it doesn’t take you long to talk to the person. By letting it fester can in the long run create more problems, which could eventually make for a very bad situation, which you always want to try and avoid. I will admit that I am not the best at this. This is why I am writing this, so others won’t make the same mistakes that I make. I am someone who needs to cool my head no matter what because if I talk about it right away, it will turn out extremely bad but this is because I have anger issues that I have learned that if I walk away first and talk about it after I calm down, the talk goes much smoother.

Do I suggest doing that, no. I suggest finding a happy medium that fits for you. If blowing off steam works, then do it, if you don’t need to and can settle the problem right away, then do that. As long as you do it, that is the main key.

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